The top 11 dating apps for women who want real connections

Being a woman on the internet can be tough, but trying to find a genuine connection on a dating app? That can feel nearly impossible sometimes. Between the emboldened creeps, endless swiping, and surprisingly convincing AI profiles, it’s enough to make you wonder if applying for Love Island is a more sane alternative. (Spoiler alert: it’s not.)
The reality is, dating as a woman in 2025 comes with a unique set of challenges. There’s the constant barrage of low-effort “hey” messages, the unsolicited dick pics, the men who are definitely married, and the underlying safety concerns men just don’t have to think about. It’s enough to make you want to swear off dating and just get another cat (no judgment here).
But despite the challenges, dating apps do work. Connections happen every day, and a 2025 survey from SSRS found that nearly 39 percent of all U.S. adults have used dating apps. However, among current users, only 38 percent are women. Yes, that means the odds are a little stacked against you, but don’t despair. The key isn’t giving up and hoping for an old-fashioned meet-cute; it’s finding the best dating apps for women that prioritize safety, respect, and actually help you filter out the nonsense.
Fortunately for you (and my sanity), navigating this mess is literally my job. As Mashable’s resident dating expert for the last three years, I’ve put dozens of dating apps and websites to the test. From classics like eharmony to exciting newcomers like Pure, I tried them all. I did the swiping, matching, and blocking to figure out what actually works. So whether you want a serious relationship, a casual hookup, or just an app that puts you in control, I’ve found the options genuinely worth your time.
The dating apps I’d skip (and why)
You’ll probably notice a few popular apps are missing from my list. That’s intentional. Part of my job is to filter out the platforms that aren’t worth your time, money, or sanity —especially when safety is a top concern for women. An app doesn’t get my recommendation just because it’s well-known; it has to be effective and trustworthy. Here are a few I think women should skip.
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Plenty of Fish (POF): I know this one shows up on a lot of lists, but in my opinion, it’s a low-tech dating app ghost town. POF launched way back in 2003, and the experience and interface feel dated. After testing it out, I (along with tons of Redditors) can confirm that it’s filled with bots and scammers. I think your time is better spent elsewhere.
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“Hookup” sites (like BeNaughty, Fling, Kasual): You’ve probably seen ads for sites promising quick, no-strings-attached fun. Based on my research and countless user reviews, I’d advise women to steer clear. These platforms are notorious for being overrun with bots and having questionable billing practices. More importantly, the lack of verification and moderation often creates a sketchy environment where harassment and fake profiles are rampant.